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Getting Unstuck1
I’m sitting outside at the Little Bakery, eating lunch with Marcus. We get together about once a month, to keep in touch and catch up.
“Do you ever feel …?” He looks at me, putting down his fork.
In the middle of my Cobb salad, I look up, receptive. It’s a warm day, tending to hot, but under the large blue and white umbrella we are very comfortable.
“Like, you, um, I mean, you know, things are just not going anywhere?” he manages to get out.
I shrug. He’s not really asking me a question.
He picks up his fork, takes a bite. “Sometimes I think,” he continues, “there are things I want to do.”
I put down my fork; looking up, open. “Like?”
“Oh, I don’t know. Things. Like maybe lose a few pounds. Get in better shape. Play some tennis again. Or write.”
“I didn’t know you were a writer,” I say.
“Well, I used to, a little. I think I’d like to try it some again.” He pauses, looks down. “I really should do something with this job. Or maybe something completely different.” He smiles at me. “Hey, here I am laying a trip on you.”
“No, it’s fine. Go ahead, I’m listening.”
“There’s so much I could do,” he resumes. “Don’t you ever feel --?” He grins, shaking his head. “I feel, a lot, that there’s so much more I could be getting out of life.”
“Sounds good,” I say. “So what’s stopping you?”
He looks up to his right, then down; seems to nod to himself. “Me, I guess,” he says, looking back at me. “I get down on myself. I procrastinate. I worry about things. Maybe I start something, but it doesn’t go anywhere. I’m in a rut. Can’t get off my duff. I’m stuck.”
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The How to Get UnstuckTM program enables you to re-program yourself for a happier, healthier and more effective life. The secret? -- learning to use your imagination to get everything you want out of life.
Imagine yourself, just for a moment, totally free of everything and anything that is holding you back. Imagine a you that is completely ready, willing and able to get more out of life. If you can do that, you are on your way.
What would it be like for you if your everyday fears no longer limited you and held you back? Lock onto that positive image of yourself and you have everything you need to reprogram yourself for a happier, healthier and more effective life.
This is a powerful program -- "mental martial art" is a good description. You will be changed, or rather, you will change yourself.
How to Get Unstuck includes seven sessions:
1. Relaxing your Body and Quieting Your Mind
You learn to relax deeply and quiet your mind with the Basic Exercise, a combination of self-hypnosis and meditation, then to intensely be in the moment, expanding your senses to simultaneously take in everything around you. You begin practicing these every day (and continue adding to them with each subsequent session).
2. Develop Your Focusing Skills & Imagination Abilities
Starting with the Basic Exercise, you take yourself into “The Zone” to focus on mentally practicing shooting baskets, your tennis serve, or dance moves (Tai Chi, Jujitsu, gymnastics, etc.). Develop your own Power Image – a complete see-hear-feel-smell-taste representation of yourself as you want and intend to be, experienced from the inside – to pull you forward, up and out of your stuck state of being.
3. Detox Painful Memories
Learn to “detoxify” those upsetting, painful emotions and replace them with feelings of competence, confidence, and enthusiasm. Begin to release blame and guilt with powerful Forgiveness (of self and others) exercises. I record these sessions, for you to take with you and continue practicing at home.
4. Conquer Anxiety
Begin to conquer anxiety and stop “planning for disaster” – put your cares and worries in a closet and bolt the door. Learn to let go! Reset your DNA for healing, vitality, and natural balance.
5. Stop Sabotaging Yourself
Reconnect with your Inner Child as your ally in realizing your visions and following your dreams. Learn to deactivate those triggers for unwanted habits and behaviors that you have inadvertently picked up over the years; re-condition yourself for new, healthier, more productive ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. Practice re-balancing your body’s energy centers.
6. Creatively Manage your Stress and Overcome Your Fears With Self-Confidence
Re-program yourself to handle previously stressful or bothersome situations with ease, confidence, and self-assurance. Empower yourself for lasting change.
7. Putting it All Together
Learn and practice ongoing exercises and activities for staying unstuck.
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With How to Get Unstuck my role is really that of a coach, as with other Quantum FocusingTM programs, such as for Fibromyalgia and IBS and, really, the WHY (Weight, Hypnotherapy, and You) program for weight reduction. Hypnotherapy per se is really based on a medical model – you have a symptom or a condition, a phobia, for instance, or stress, or a tobacco habit, and I work with you to “cure” it.
Being “stuck” is not a symptom or a condition; it is a collection of attitudes and behaviors that you have inadvertently learned over the years, unconsciously triggered by things around you and events. With How to Get Unstuck, I coach you to develop self-regulating skills and abilities that allow you to deactivate those triggers and remove the blocks, the fears, the maladaptive habits of thinking and acting (and not acting!) that used to feel like limitations that were holding you back.
There are three ways you can experience the How to Get Unstuck program:
1. You can purchase the Workbook for $30 and work through it yourself.
2. You can schedule one or two sessions with me to get you started and purchase the Workbook at a 50% discount.
3. You can schedule up to seven sessions with me – the workbook is gratis.
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If you feel “stuck”, call or email me and let’s talk about it. Remember, I offer a free consultation, including to previous clients who are now thinking about this program.
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Quantum FocusingTM and the How To Get UnstuckTM program were originated by Michael Ellner, D.D., MSH, CHT and Alan Barsky, CHT, MH
1 Also see article "Relax Your Way to Perfect Health".
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